"Being in a relationship has changed my life big time. I’ve calmed down a lot"

Supported Living Client

My keyworker does my Person Centred Plan. It’s a risk assessment. It guides me as to what I can and can’t do. He asks me questions and I take an active part. It’s a review every six months. It’s helpful having a plan. It gives me satisfaction that I know that somebody’s there to support me.

I’m a romantic at heart.

I met my girlfriend on the 27 June 2015 at the Rendezvous Casino. It was love at first sight. I asked if I could hold her hand the first time I saw her.

Being in a relationship has changed my life big time. I’ve calmed down a lot. It’s calmed me temper. She’s gentle. She makes me feel good.

On her 50th birthday, I bought her a necklace with her birth stone. She used to keep buying me ties – I have 13! I’ve got bow ties as well!

We meet once a fortnight. When we see each other at my home we can have privacy.

If I want to explain something important to her, I go through her support worker. That middle person helps explain things calmly so my girlfriend doesn’t get upset. I don’t want anything to go wrong with this relationship.

I’m not a disabled person, but I’m a person with a learning disability. I’ve been living in supported living accommodation for six years. I have my own room but I have to share a kitchen. I get a very good service from Southdown. I like it there. Staff are nice.

My keyworker does my Person Centred Plan. It’s a risk assessment. It guides me as to what I can and can’t do. He asks me questions and I take an active part. It’s a review every six months. It’s helpful having a plan. It gives me satisfaction that I know that somebody’s there to support me.

My hobbies are telly, telly, telly! And the Q-Team!

The best thing about being part of the Q-Team is the camaraderie. It’s better than watching TV on your backside! We’re all mates. We’ve got the same interests. We would like that the people that we go in to see are getting the right support. That they have some independence and freedom to do what they want.

I’ve grown. I used to be a bad tempered old git. But now I’m not because I’ve seen there are people worse off than me. I used to get stressed about my living situation and am bad tempered when I don’t get enough sleep. Now I know to take time out to chill for five minutes.

I’m proud of what I’ve done.             

We provide care and support at 26 supported living services across Sussex. Supported living is where an individual owns or rents their own home and has control over the support they get and how they live their lives.

The Q-Team is a team of people who use our learning disability services and have been trained and are supported to undertake quality checks of our residential services. Their aim is to facilitate others that use our learning disability services to say what they think is a ‘quality service’, what the things that are important to them are, and how they like to live their lives.